Author Archives: shandaoakley

About shandaoakley

I am a MK and have lived most of my life in Thirld World Countries. This greatly influences how I think, speak and write. I love my husband of 25 years and my three kids, ages 18, 21 and 21. We recently moved to Southern California and have set up life back in the US. I love my home, friends, animals, teaching and mostly Jesus! I believe life is a choice so I choose joy!

We just move to Fort Morgan, Colorado and I soon realize my skinny jeans and platform shoes make me stand out as a ‘foreigner’. This is someone I always seem to be, yet who I forever seek to hide, in an … Continue reading

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>The Day My Daddy Cried

> When I was thirteen I happened to have a boyfriend who was twenty-three. I say ‘happened’ because I really don’t know how it came about, not even remembering liking him that much. He was just there and one of … Continue reading

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>Alone in the Church

> Since teaching a lesson on compassion for my ladies bible study this past week, the subject has been weighing heavy on my heart. The area bothering me is not compassion for the lost, the sick or the poor, but … Continue reading

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>I Feel Beautiful?

> I used to feel beautiful. Being athletic, it was easy to stay in shape even though struggling with weight has always been a issue. I remember my first diet in forth grade. My sister and I would arrive from … Continue reading

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>Sex and Motherhood, My Mom and Heaven

> I used to think my mom was a bit crazy and I didn’t quite ‘get’ her. She continually verbalized her hope that Jesus would come soon so she could go to heaven. I would think, “I don’t want Jesus … Continue reading

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>Read The Bible In A Year?

> There are so many people who aim to ‘read the bible in a year’. There was even a status update recently on my facebook wall where someone claimed to be on his seventeenth year of completing this task. I … Continue reading

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>My Attempts To Declutter

> How is it that so many find joy in decluttering? For some time now it has been on my heart to let go of the many things I own and enjoy the freedom that accompanies owning less. I’ve read … Continue reading

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